Cassential Links, 2/8/14
It has taken me a while to get my links post up, so some of these posts are a little dated, but still very relevant…here’s your Saturday Cassential links. 🙂
I remember sitting in a grad school sociology class and suddenly feeling very “masculine” that I so eagerly raised my hand and spoke up with my perspective in class. I was still very insecure about many things in life, but I knew my sociological stuff and I liked to share it. But was my behavior too aggressive and “unfeminine?” I’ve since learned not to care and not to apologize for being “too much.”
Women’s sexual expression has become more open and mainstream in recent years, but is the message of sexuality that is so often promoted one of female empowerment or an appeal to a heterosexual male ideal of generic submissive sexuality?
One thing that I learned over the years with my own body image struggles is that self-love is an ongoing process. Disordered thinking about one’s body often leads to behaviors that are dysfunctional. Years of anorexic-like behaviors and binge eating has taught me this. Learning not to judge ourselves and our behaviors is a step in the direction towards greater health and better choices. Knowing what is good for us and acting on this are two different things, but working to sync these two is a process towards healthy mind and a healthy body.
When I was in my early 20s and lost a significant amount of weight, I noticed a sudden change in people’s treatment of me. I got hit on relentlessly – sexually harassed constantly. I had a co-worker objectify me, asking me to turn around and model for him – I felt like such a piece of meat. Once that same co-worker got to know me, he treated me with a whole new level of respect – even going so far as to tell me that he had no idea that “there was so much to me.” Experiencing life both as a very thin athletic woman and as an overweight woman has given me a lot of perspective – there definitely is an ugly side of pretty.
Love this article on how dressing for your age, whatever that means anyway, is dead. While my personal style has changed from early 20s due to my lifestyle and fashion whims, I love the idea that age has no real relevancy on how we dress. Stupid rules are most definitely made to be broken. Wear what you want!!!
Great explanation of the concept of whiteness and how the construction of race was developed to promote and justify inequalities.